am i headed for graceland, she asked you. so how hard was this for you to write?as poring out of me. and so it was a release. i felt good about it. and i also felt carrie on my shoulder. you know, there was a presence there and i could almost hear her say, go for it, mom, go. so it actually freed me to write this and as i was writing, and i do write, i felt good about it. yeah, it wasn't that hard. it was something i felt i had to do. >> you said she was a force. what -- what about her personality. what drew people to her the most? >> her smile, her optimism. she would, there was a part, she wrote me an e-mail once saying on the road trip, she had gone into a kind of family-type restaurant or whatever and she had this big smile and she would smile and everybody would be open to her, and then she said, mama, i don't know why people don't smile more, because if you walk into a room full of strangers and you smile, the world opens up to you. and that's the kind of girl she was. even in the hospital, one afternoon, i was there to go see carrie, and a nurse came up to