. >> reporter: as i deal with dan's healmeltdown, i learn fro mental health officials that young refugees often act out in inprompt w inappropriate ways. and dan, i'm told, is a classic case. >> life sucks without family. >> reporter: in fact, and this is a largely untold story, some of the iraqi ref ewe deeps who came to america at the height of the insurgency have ended up going home in frustration. >> i don't know, this is a message for all iraqis. don't come here. this is not the place to be for us. it's not the place. >> reporter: really? you think they're better off in the middle of the war? >> that's our destiny, man. we have to deal with it. that's what's right for us. >> reporter: it dawns on me that this situation is a metaphor for the idealism and dashed expectations of the larger american experience in iraq. >> george bush said, iraq has nuclear weapon and we have to get there and take it all. okay, where is it? did they find it? no, they didn't. it was -- it was a big huge lie. okay, we lie, iraqis lie, but george bush lie, too. >> reporter: dan may have mixed feelings about