i think having made so many mistakes in my"ultimately helpf. i think achieving any kind of success only at age 44 also was helpful in that i've learned how to say no to things that might hurt me or make me unhappy. >> rose: that might make you unhappy or do damage to you. >> i do a lot of, most of my creative and business decisions are based on simple principles. who will i have to speak to on the phone on a regular basis. and if it's somebody who i don't, if the phone rings and i pick it up and it's someone i wouldn't ordinarily want to hang out with or have a conversation with or go to dinner w i certainly don't want to be in business with them. i don't want that in my life. it will lead to bad stuff and i want to kept that away. >> rose: you mentioned two things that are enormously important to you. your wife and your kid. >> yes. >> rose: changed you in a way. >> yes. >> rose: i mean you found your wife when you weren't really looking for a wife. >> true. we met on a blind date organized by our mature friend eric rivera. and i think his wor