whatever her fate, hilberling says the jury got it wrong. court records, however, show the relationship had more than a few problems. the couple married when amber was 19 and josh was 21. almost immediately, they left their friends and family in tulsa behind. >> he had enlisted in the air force. we flew off to alaska where he was stationed. >> amber says the marriage quickly deteriorated. josh started changing, getting very angry very quickly, and it just kind of escalated. nobody can understand what it was like to be married to him. i loved him so much, but he was a jerk. >> josh was soon honorably discharged from the air force on an unrelated matter. amber was nearly seven months pregnant when the couple moved back to tulsa. >> my mom had an apartment at the university club towers that she had rented out and said we could go stay there. we were on the 25th floor, i mean, we were just arguing in the living room, and you know when you argue, you get closer and closer and closer and josh put his hands out onto my shoulders and i just -- i mea