. >> hinojosa: ..."give your children that choice, make them into good choosers." >> yes. and we ask our children at the age of four, "what do you want to be when you grow up?" and it's not that we're saying that we trust your choice. we're saying implicitly, "we understand you're going to change your mind." but we're saying, you know, "look, these are the kinds of things you need to learn to know. you need to know what kind of cereal you want, you need to know and figure out who you're going to grow up to be, and what you're going to do." now, by contrast, when you go to other cultures, that's not always the message that they're given. so, you know, say, in many collectivist cultures, whether they be in latin american culture, asian cultures, whether it be japan or china or india, there the message is, you ow, "you've got to respect your parents," or, "you need to respect your god." and, you know, your parents should be thought of as the ones that are the main decision makers, at least until you are equ