and go, that's great, you know, i can understand if you looked in the mirror and went this or that, irto change this. if you looked in and went, looking good, buddy, what's wrong with that? >> i think it's great to have self-esteem and a healthy body image but at the same time we need to keep appearance in perspective. >> stephen: the craziest thing is is you got married during this year without mirrors. >> i did. stephen: what was that like? [ cheers and applause ] that's daredevil. >> the wedding and preparing for the wedding was the reason i had to do this project. i was really getting sucked into the industry, the wedding industry telling me that, you know,... >> stephen: your most beautiful day of your life. >> most important day of my life and that the wedding was really about what i looked like and not about my marriage and all my friends and family. and i was feeling alarmed. my research at u.c.l.a. is about body image and women's issues. i felt kind of like a body image expert with a body image problem and i wanted to change that. >> stephen: did you think you had a problem? as