over, that islled worrisome.n they do go out, if they are behind the wheel of a car, the advice you give them. i used to think the advice was different for my son then my daughter, but it is really the same. they both have to carry with them something that on originally many of their friends do not have to carry. i used to think when they were younger, i would have to talk to my son differently than my daughter but i do not think that is the case. ta-nisi: you think about the different thing shift assay to your child, that is sort of compounding. at all boils down to fear. recession the other day at another place. one of the things i kept coming ,ack to is the way which particularly young african-americans, the way in which you have to modulate your cell. there is a way of modulating yourself when you are talking to police officers. we have talks about that, about how to conduct your cell. how you have to conduct yourself in school. one of the most disruptive there -- aspect of it is is a different way i had to l