itel high school students so they don't believe me that every course they should take in college shouldhelp them decide who to marry. that is the only important decision they are going to mencken their lives. if you -- a good marriage produces the same happiness gains is making $100,000 a year more. if you have a good marriage and a bad career you'll be happy and if you have a bad marriage and a good career you will be unhappy so every course should help you make that decision. none of them believed me, none of them do it but in those courses and and that desire to fuse with one another we get the sense of essentially who we are, that we are divided by skull, divided by consciousness but deep down we deeply want to interpenetrate one to another and that is the highest thing we long for. one of the beautiful examples i got, i found a fat was in a book by a guy named douglas hofstadter who was at indiana university, scientists who researches the mind. and hofstadter was married to a woman named carol. he went out -- they lived in italy and when their kids were five and two carol suddenly