j.j. polar grew up in a block of flats in the london district of camden. his parents fled what is now the democratic republic of congo when he was 7. wonderful. community. and in its midst a lively boy in a loving household. one in which boys too like to hug. but then especially in teenagers you know you've got a lot of young boys who try to do the rude boy a true thing i know it very well because it's one of those boys i thought i had to make people respect me and i realized that that didn't that wasn't helpful to me it's all that wasn't who i am. i think a lot of young boy is have that imposed on them and i don't realise why they feel this way both i later became a social worker he observed the way young men influenced by obsolete ideas of masculinity struggled. to the expectations of a modern open society that's more in touch with feelings. trying to repress what they feel and often calm out alcohol abuse drug abuse and more specifically you know we talk about we. all come out aggressive. not just aggression. but it could be relationships to. timely boo