that was j.j. rush. >> and we spent that whole night just getting to know each other again. >> and a couple of years later they married. cara would welcome megan j.j.'s daughter from his first marriage as part of the new family. >> she was icing on the cake. i was so happy to have a man who had a little girl. >> it can be complicated. >> it wasn't always easy but i loved her like my own. >> but into every life a little rain. 8 years into marriage there was a bump, a big one. >> i had an affair. >> with the principal at her school. that's when cara and j.j. separated and later divorced. >> he blamed himself for my affair and for our breakup and for the year that we were separated and for the year we were divorced he pursued me relentlessly. >> blamed himself why? >> for not being there. for being out in a bar drinking or wherever he was and leaving me to keep the home fires burning. >> but they weren't apart for long. about a year after the divorce, they had a chance encounter on the beach. >> and i had