. >> jaya has her two lovers, but how do the men feel about each other?you two be friends if it wasn't for her? >> i don't think we'd be hang-out buddies. >> they're very different. >> what do you think, john? >> way too chatty. [ laughter ] >> reporter: but in this three-headed household, who takes charge? >> do you consider yourself more the alpha dog in this family? >> uh, yes. >> well, jaya is alpha dog too. >> so what does that make john. >> john is somebody who gets fulfillment out of being in service, doing things for people. >> reporter: is it hard to share someone that you love that much? >> yeah, it can be. it can be tough. >> reporter: five years later, jaya, john and ian are still together. and then there's what they say is the social stigma. carrie's received loads of negative feedback. >> there is some -- sometimes vitriolic and mostly anonymous comments that i get. >> reporter: despite criticism, carrie and her partners say they're committed to sharing their story, for other poly amorrous people who aren't able to. >> people do need to unde