jessica crowder is dead. so is her boyfriend, r.j.ulver, who police say turned the gun on himself. >> jesse was the kind of girl who would hold it in. if you love somebody -- i guess it's kind of hard to leave them. >> reporter: her sister heather says the couple had been on and off for $three years. r.j. had been arrested for domestic violence at least six times before. on average a woman will leave seven times before leaving her abuser for good. >> it would have been better if she could have got away from him. she felt that if she knew where he was, that her kids were safe. >> here's a sign that we had a memorial. not getting to see her, not getting to hug her, not getting to touch her. it's hard. and then you're going to see her two kids asking, when's mama coming home? >> reporter: during the 11 days we chronicled, 67 men, women and children were killed in domestic violence-related shootings. it's 5:00 p.m. in the wealthy enclave of fullshire, texas. mother of two christie sheets calls a family meeting in this upscale home. when h