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>> jeff based his costume today off of the girl who plays the blueberry girl. >> and they're also getting uncomfortable. >> i think they're getting -- >> that's why they look at their phone all the time. >> reporter: but the girls can't avoid the bullying on their phones either. our actors are going after our victim online too. the kids are using their phones to rate some viral videos as part of our focus group. when our victim says he likes this video, featuring weird al -- >> soup's on! >> i really liked the weird al one -- >> reporter: our bully pounces and starts cyberbullying. he sends a mean message to everyone in the group except our victim. the girls don't know it, but we're following their on-line conversation from our watchmobile. >> our actor, the bully, he's like, "oh yeah, this guy thought weird al was the funniest, probably because it's the only one including food." >> reporter: the girls see the message. >> jayden totally saw the one about the boy. >> because she looked at him, and she was wondering if he saw it. >> reporter: will they be tempted to join the cyberbullies? or will they speak up for our victim? their moms watch anxiously. >> are they just not responding? >> reporter: the girls begin typing. and it's not to defend our victim. they chime in with the bullies. >> ok, so jayden said "he's annoying me." >> oh, see? >> and colette's like "omg, wow, lmao." laugh my tushie off -- >> reporter: their on-line conversation continues. it seems this is where the girls feel safe confiding. but remember as part of our ruse we interviewed them on camera earlier. and suddenly they get worried they're being recorded right now. they say nothing in the room, but on-line -- >> okay, so jayden wrote "omg guys we have to stop being mean to jeff, they're definitely recording us." so she's worried about being recorded. >> so she's -- doesn't mind being mean, she just doesn't wanna do it on camera. >> yeah. >> that's a conversation. >> reporter: jayden follows up with "omg guys, we're so evil." >> clearly they're saying, let's stop this conversation, which is a good thing. but it seems to me that came from more out of -- >> fear. >> or getting caught. >> of getting caught. >> reporter: in the room, the body language is clear -- our victim is iced out. >> they're excluding him completely. it's so disturbing. that she wouldn't be more sensitive to the fact that he's being excluded, when she herself has been excluded at times. >> jeff, you've got to contribute something, man. >> reporter: but as our victim shuts down, jayden seems to really feel for him. she doesn't say anything to the bullies face to face, but pushes back on-line. >> "i honestly feel bad. he's so quiet. i'm just like ugh, bad person." she feels bad about it. >> hi! >> reporter: it's time to let the kids know what's really going on. >> okay? did you guys all work together as a team? >> yup, some of them we had struggles with -- >> well, you're not really here for the focus group. we're actually doing a show called "my kid would never do that." these guys are actors, the bullies, jeff is the victim. did you guys feel like it was intense in here? >> yeah. it was kind of intense. >> it was intense and very quiet. >> did you feel at one point that you ever wanted to speak up for jeff -- >> i did feel bad for jeff. i wanted it to stop. >> reporter: we tell the girls we've not only been watching them, but reading their comments on-line as well. >> so were you worried about jeff's feelings? or were you more worried about, "we're going to come off looking bad." >> a little bit of -- >> i can't lie, a little bit of both. but i can't say it was just "they're recording us." >> were you afraid to speak up, because maybe you would become a target? >> i guess i'm just used to being silent about stuff. i was trying to deflect it. >> reporter: our expert comes in and explains how that can send a dangerous message to the victim. >> do you see that by, like, by doing that, and, like, "let's just stay out of it," looks like you're totally siding with them? >> yeah. we did look like we were siding with them. >> reporter: the girls tell us they know what it feels like to be in the victim's shoes -- >> i've had extreme experiences with bullying on multiple occasions. >> sometimes i've been bullied at my school, and then it's just like so awkward you don't want to say anything you just sit there. >> reporter: wiseman wants parents to know that kids who've been victimized can actually have a harder time speaking up. >> it makes me think as a parent, "what more should i be doing?" how many more conversations, how many different ways should we have the conversations that we're having. >> me and my mom are close. we're close. >> i applaud you guys for being so honest and open, and be willing to, you know, share what you have gone through to teach others. >> reporter: our next teen hasn't been bullied himself, but his sister says she was the victim of nasty cyberbullying. meet connor. >> i'm 13 years old and i use instagram. >> reporter: his dad says even though connor's in an unfamiliar environment - - >> i think he'll stand up for himself or if someone else is being picked on. i think he would stand up. >> reporter: this time we've switched up some of the actors. these two guys are the bullies, and this actor is playing our awkward victim. we leave them alone to answer the pop culture questions. when our victim says he likes a particular tv show -- >> maybe like "dance moms" is really popular. >> reporter: our bullies dive right in. >> who are you? what kind of suggestion was "dance moms"? >> i mean unless you like to dance around in your house with a leotard on while watching "dance moms." >> oh, that's not cool? >> reporter: at first, connor laughs along, but then the bullies make fun of our victim's sweater, and his hair. they compare him to a "harry potter" character. >> he looks like the guy who plays ron weasley, if ron weasley were to wear glasses and a shirt made out of autumn leaves. >> okay, do you see that he's feeling nervous about his laughing. >> and he's looking at him. >> reporter: connor looks like he's having fun with the guys, but also seems concerned about our victim. >> favorite clothing brand? leaves. >> so he laughed. >> reporter: but watch what he does next. >> i like leaves. >> trying to make him feel a little better. "i like leaves." >> reporter: connor begins aligning himself with our victim. watch how he disagrees with the bullies about the best video game. >> i think it's more like a "call of duty" kind of thing. >> yeah, i think "call of duty" would be more -- >> don't kill me when i say i don't like "call of duty." >> that's huge for him to say that to these boys. >> it might not look like it. that's huge for him to say he doesn't like "call of duty." >> reporter: and he defuses the tension with humor. >> i love jennifer lawrence. >> uh huh, i can tell. she's my wife. >> she's my wife? >> did i ever tell you guys? >> nice. atta boy. i know a lot of people like ariana grande. >> she's my wife too. don't tell jennifer lawrence. >> reporter: and maybe most important of all, he repeatedly includes our victim, even when the bullies are at their meanest. >> we don't really need to worry about ed's input anymore. >> what do you think, ed? >> there you go. what do you think ed? cut him off there. >> reporter: connor has taken crucial steps to support our victim in the room. but things get more complicated when the bullying goes cyber. >> this is a lot for him to deal with. >> reporter: coming up -- >> no wonder why he voted "harry potter." that's who he bases his outfit on. #nerd. that's harsh. what will connor do? >> reporter: then -- >> think before you talk! >> reporter: here come the mean girls with a selfie that stings. >> oh, wow. >> things are getting mean. >> reporter: when "dateline" >> reporter: in his own quiet way, 13-year-old connor has done his best to help the actor being bullied in this room. >> what do you think ed? >> reporter: but what will he do about the cyberbullying? it's something his older sister alyssa says she's had to deal with. >> they said i look digusting. i look like a rat. they picked on what i look like, my nose. >> reporter: alyssa says cyberbullying can be fast and furious, with kids piling on mean comments. >> adults could usually say oh just ignore them, brush it off but it can really get to someone's child if it's constantly happening every single day. they don't feel the loneliness that their child might feel. >> reporter: now, her brother connor is about to deal with some cyberbullies. and their dad is watching from our watchmobile. the bully takes a picture of our victim, and posts it with this comment. >> he's like, "no wonder why he voted harry potter. that's who he bases his outfit on. #nerd." >> and then connor sees all the comments? >> connor sees he's following. >> reporter: the bully turns up the heat, calling our victim "the biggest nerd ever" and then writing -- >> the latest comment, you'd be so much better if you wore a bag over your head." >> reporter: this time, one of the bullies actually asks connor to "like" the post. >> but you totally got to like it. or leave a comment or something. >> this is a lot for him to deal with. >> reporter: connor appears deep in thought. after one more look at our victim, he decides what to do. he puts his phone down, practically out of reach. the message is clear, he won't join in. >> he literally was being pressured by somebody, and he didn't do it. >> he shows compassion to people that are getting picked on. and i pretty much felt that he would do that. >> reporter: we come in to congratulate him on everything he did right. >> i was sitting there. and i was saying "my god. this child is trying --" >> everything. >> every single thing you could. >> were you trying to say something? or trying to put words. >> i wanted to say something. i wanted to help but i didn't want them to retaliate on me. >> reporter: it's best, says wiseman, to say something short and effective to the bullies, like "stop it." but if you can't, you can still send a powerful message without saying a word. like connor did when he pushed his phone away. >> where did you feel the biggest resistance, where was it the hardest to keep going? >> i mean, the whole thing was so hard to keep going because he's just such a good kid, you know? i just felt so bad. >> can i give you a hug? cause i know what you're feeling, this is a lot to deal with. by the way, i'm your new wife. jennifer lawrence is not your wife. >> reporter: a lot of kids told us they feared retaliation if they confronted the bullies. but there's another reason kids don't speak up, and it's a hard one to admit to. sometimes, they just don't like the victim. but that, says rosalind wiseman, is no excuse. >> you can acknowledge it. "yup, this person's annoying." there will be annoying people in the world. but just because there's somebody who doesn't get along, or you don't feel as much in common with, does not therefore mean that you just turn your back on them. >> reporter: so what will happen when our victim is angel, an actress who we asked to appear immature, awkward, even irritating. >> think of the person who interrupts all the time and tells their own story. >> reporter: angel says when she was younger, she was targeted by bullies. >> i apparently had a reputation for being annoying in school. >> reporter: let's see how our next teens do. first up, grace. >> i'm 13 and i use instagram. >> reporter: and bianca, who's in the 8th grade. i'm in the watchmobile with their parents. grace's dad says she's outgoing, into music and theater. he's told her to try to avoid any situations that involve bullying. >> is she going to say something or back off and back out of the situation? >> it depends on how far it goes. i'll be curious to see what, like her facial expressions are and how she's, you know, what's going through her mind in a way. my gut would be that she'll stay out of it as long as she can. >> bianca's mom says her daughter is quiet, an avid reader and not big on social media. she also says bianca has been the target of terrible bullying, some of it, even physical. >> so she knows how it feels to be the victim. >> yeah. >> reporter: she says she's told bianca to speak up for herself. >> if you don't do anything, they're constantly coming back because you're not defending yourself. they're like, you know what? you're an easy target. i don't want her to be an easy target. >> ok, you ready to see how they do? >> yeah. >> here we go. >> reporter: this time, we have an all girl group with actors playing our bullies and our victim, who's been asked to be annoying. before long, it becomes apparent that angel isn't fitting in. >> it makes me think, oh my god. my cousin has this adorable little corgi. and he's so, so hyper. and he's just running around on all these really stubby little legs. and he just runs around all the time like this. so cute. >> angel. >> angel, like, sorry. we just need to be -- >> what. >> like, you're talking a lot. and we just need to, like, get through all these. >> reporter: then they make fun of her favorite social media site. >> a lot of, a lot of teenagers use tumblr, like, really, really often. >> i don't think anyone uses tumblr. i think it's a little more like you're indoors a lot. >> reporter: and they mock her when she imitates a youtube character. >> hi, everyone. i'm cutie pie. >> wait. can you say it again? >> one, one more time. >> it's really funny. >> just, just one more time. >> she just seems not there. >> what gives you the indication that she's not there? >> she's just not, she was just on the phone. i don't know, maybe she's trying to stay out of it. >> reporter: now for the cyberbullying. will it be easier for the girls to push back on-line? the mean girls take a picture of our victim when she's not looking, and send it with this comment. angel loves weird al. big surprise that the weirdest girl likes weird al." bianca doesn't respond but grace chimes in. >> crying. >> crying in all ways. >> reporter: that's cyber slang for laughing so hard you're crying. >> grace, your daughter, "crying" so your daughter is joining in a little bit. it's tough, because, you know, that's how kids, they want to be a part of the conversation. >> reporter: then, the bully takes it one step further. >> they're getting really nasty on social media. >> reporter: she takes a selfie with just bianca and grace, and sends it to them with the comment "so glad you guys are here." and then -- >> can angel like, shut up? guys, ignore her. >> oh wow. >> so now, they're telling your girls to exclude angel. >> oh wow. >> reporter: what will the girls do this time? remember bianca hasn't commented on any of the posts, and this time, grace doesn't either. >> angel, can you just like, shut up? cause like everything you're saying is kind of like bringing us down. think before you talk. >> so it's getting mean. >> really silent in the room. it's almost like your own girls are afraid to contribute any answers. >> yeah, they're kinda backing off. >> reporter: the girls become more quiet, though grace remains friendly with the bullies. >> i'm going to ask your daughters about laughing, about why you laugh in certain situations. because sometimes you laugh cause you're nervous and you don't know what to do. >> i mean some of it i think, in a group dynamic, you're trying to maybe get the group back on track too, you know. >> totally. >> you know, almost involuntary. >> reporter: it looks like the girls aren't going to defend our victim, in the room, or on-line. so we get ready to wrap it up. >> i know it's hard to tear your eyes away. >> reporter: but suddenly, a dramatic reaction, turns everything around. >> is she crying? 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>> i don't know, i don't think we all got in. >> reporter: she makes them take it again. >> maybe we should get up 'cause so we can all fit in. >> reporter: as they pose, there's no question whose side bianca is on. she wraps her arm around angel and keeps it there. >> nice. so your daughter did something for the victim. you're proud of her for that? >> yeah, i really am. >> did you guys all work together as a team? >> reporter: i go to meet the girls, and that's when it becomes clear that even though this is an acting job for angel, the nasty comments have brought back a lot of real memories. >> are you okay, angel? okay, so what really happened here? i'll tell you what really happened we're doing a show called "my kid would never do that." and actually angel's an actress. you two are really here about bullying. >> what? >> yes. >> oh my god. >> it's a show about bullying and it was hard. this is no act. this is -- >> this -- >> you really -- >> this isn't. it brings back so many memories because for me, like, i had gone through this before as a kid as well. and so i want to say to you, bianca, thank you for pulling me aside. when she saw that i started crying, she started comforting me. >> where did that come from bianca? >> well, i get bullied a lot too. so i really know how it feels. >> now, grace, did you pick up on the bullying? >> yeah and i didn't want to say anything because everyone here is really nice. >> reporter: we tell them we've been reading the comments they posted online. remember, when one of the bullies called our victim "weird," grace went along. >> not to put you on the spot, but it's a natural thing, i think, for kids to wanna feel like they're a part of the conversation on social media. so you chimed in there on that maybe just, you know, did you feel like you had to get them to like you? >> well, i felt more of a connection to them. 'cause, like, i -- i didn't really have any, like -- you know, anything in common with you, angel. >> reporter: and that's the whole point of our demonstration, says wiseman, who comes in to talk to the girls. >> it shouldn't matter if you're like those people or not. like that you have stuff in common with them or not. 'cause if someone's being mean and they're different, then that actually should be the flag of wait, that is totally wrong. >> i regret doing like a lot of things. like, i feel i should have kind of went with bianca. and she did the right thing. >> that's very brave of you to say that. >> wow, that's mature actually. >> it takes a lot of courage. >> reporter: when it comes to cyberbullying, wiseman says it's not enough for parents to simply tell kids, "be nice." they need to be taught exactly what to do. >> i want you to think about what's a short thing you would say online. not something you would say, like, in person, you know, because they're different. so when you're online, you need to say something short, like, that stops it, right? >> like -- >> so what do you wanna do? >> that's not funny. >> all right. >> or, like, you know, "just stop." >> i think "not funny" and "stop" are both good because there's nowhere to go from there. >> do you feel like you learned a lot from this? >> yes. >> yes. >> reporter: and so did their parents. >> it was a good learning experience. i think you made some very good points about how there is going to be conflict, there are difficult things we have to deal with in life. and that's how you mature and you know, become a better person and a better adult. >> reporter: for our next group, we have a big surprise for the parents. but we'll start with their kids, natalie and lindsey, both 13. >> ok, so reality show. "keeping up with the kardashians." >> "keeping up with the kardashians." i watch that, i have to be honest. >> reporter: i'm monitoring from from our watchmobile with lindsey's mother. >> she is really sweet, sensitive, athletic, and i would say very empathetic. >> reporter: and natalie's mom. >> natalie is a sweet girl. she's a very warm person. i think that she cares about what people are thinking about her. i think that she wants to be liked. >> reporter: so how do they think their daughters will react? >> if she will speak up, 50/50 chance. >> i think if it's something that she's sensitive to, i think that she will speak up. >> you ready to see how your kids do? >> let's see it. >> reporter: we have the same team of actors playing mean girls and victim. our bullies jump right in. >> angel, going based on some of your other answers, i think maybe we should just not listen to that input at all. >> lindsey just looked at natalie. >> reporter: the bullies attack our victim's appearance. >> i know you definitely don't look at beauty video tutorials on youtube. >> reporter: the girls seem to notice that our victim is hurt. they look at each other again, and change the subject. >> oh yeah, yeah! >> when she says something rude, they're not even responding, the girls. they're just going on to the next subject. like -- >> they're avoiding. they're avoiding. >> is there anything you'd like your daughter to be doing differently right now? >> well, it would be nice if she said, "oh, let's just hear what angel has to say." or, "that story's interesting to me." >> reporter: though the girls seem troubled, they don't say anything. but what will they do when the bullying goes virtual? our mean girls make fun of our victim angel, "weird girl likes weird al." natalie and lindsey see the post, but seem at a loss as to what to do. >> they're not partaking in the meanness. >> they're not liking. >> they don't want to be contributing to it. positive, pro, but con is they're not stopping it. >> you guys good? >> reporter: i go in to tell the girls what's really happening. >> oh my god. >> reporter: and they tell me something we didn't know. they were texting each other, having a private conversation we couldn't see. >> i said, "i know, right? it's a little intense." >> i said, "seriously?" and then i wrote #bullies. >> reporter: they tell us what a lot of kids told us tonight. they felt bad for our victim, but couldn't find the right words to confront the bullies. something even adults can relate to. >> i think that there's no age limit on when we face these issues and learn how to deal with them better. >> reporter: would we as parents know what to do? >> i was stunned. i was in shock. >> reporter: we decided to turn our hidden cameras on the adults. it's time for our very first edition of "my parent would never do that!" coming up -- >> two layers of booty! >> reporter: a diva in disguise! >> just let me do it. >> you're sure you're a make-up artist? >> reporter: how will our moms react to a bully in their midst? >> she was like, "are you really a make-up artist?" >> did you say anything? >> reporter: when "dateline" continues. ♪ dry spray? ♪ that's fun. ♪ it's already dry! no wait time. this is great. it's very soft. can i keep it? 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