far more never studied that the bride or groom were jan and joey o'neil. ey and jan had dated for years before they got married. neither of them dreamed that their invitation to dinner would lead us to the altar in a mere three months. [laughter] and perhaps it wouldn't have if joey had introduced us when we were growing up in midland or when george and i've lived on the opposite sides of the sprawling chÂteau deshawn in houston or in almost any other moment prior to that night. but at that particular moment, on that warm summer night, both of us were hoping to find someone. we were not looking for someone to date, but for someone with whom to share a life, for the rest of our lives. we both wanted children. we were ready to build an enduring future. those were the backs of our lives, when we went to dinner that night. it was the right timing for both of us. of course, not everyone in midland agreed. as i was packing to leave boston, reagan and nelly were selling their house. a week before the wedding the mother of a friend of mine from midland came to see