each of the gold star families embodies the words of john milton, those also serve who only stand ands at a theater today have stood and waited, will leave as jill and i were at the return of a loved one, in our case, our son, from a year in iraq. many of you are now waiting for family members still overseas, many in harm's way. and some of you have stood and waited for loved ones that did not return. and live now with the knowledge that you will one day be reunited with them with our heavenly father. to those of lost a loved one in the service of our nation, i recall the famous headstone in ireland. and headstone reads as follows -- death leaves a heartache no one can heal. love leads a memory -- leaves a memory no one can steal. no one can still the memory from you. i can tell you from my own personal experience that eventually the pain and heartache you now feel will eventually, coddling, be replaced by the joyful memory of the son or daughter, husband, wife, father, mother that you loved so dearly and lost. gillan my prayer for you is that it that day will come sooner rather than