>> my first question is after i had agreed to do it mainly because john tiffany is the most charming man this side of you. (laughter) he -- my first two questions were: how did she -- the worst thing that could possibly happen to a post-victorian woman, she has two children, she's moved to the hard cold mean north from mississippi and right before world war ii in a german catholic town, i might add, of st. louis, missouri, is abandoned. now how in the world did she feed and clothe and shelter those children? not because she was a southern belle. she was a scraper. >> rose: she was a scraper. >> she was a scraper. and trevor with tremendous energy and she's left at this point with a son who is desperate to get out for all apparent reasons. and a daughter who is incapable of surviving on their own. so like every parent of a child who's disabled in some way, what will happen when i'm gone. >> rose: why does tom need to get out? >> i mean, for the obvious reasons of self-discovery i think, for realization of who he is independent of the responsibility that was inappropriately thrust upon