josh joshua coleman is brilliant, wonderful guy. and he gave me a great quote at the beginning of the book and he said, if i if i had to tell parents one thing, the thing that's going to make them angriest is you are the biggest risk. and i'm paraphrasing is the chair therapist. they're going to see at some point. so we know that therapy can do these things right. or the other thing can do. and this is also what we're seeing in the rising generation. it can make you feel like you can't handle your life. the habit of a pair of checking with a therapist weekly can make you second guess that you can make a decision and do things on your own without checking in, without asking permission, without strategizing and it can do this to adults. but what is scary is i interviewed so many kids. you're seeing this across this generation, this incapacity this lack of efficacy, which is a side effect of. but i interviewed one woman who i thought really nailed it back. i call her becca in the book. she a high school senior. she'd been in therapy si