julia grant's wartime journeys are remarkable demonstrations of the grants' mutual love and devotion. as a result of them, julia had a front row seat as almost no other woman did to the end game of the civil war when she and their youngest son jesse lived with grant in his headquarters from january to april of 1865, and when she refused to go to ford's theater with the lincolns on april 14th. why were fremont and mcclellan so unsuccessful as generals and sherman and grant so successful? of course there are many reasons, but an important part of the answer to that question is found in the women who were their wives. jessie fremont and nelly mcclellan never disagreed with their husbands. instead, they encouraged their generals to persist in their arrogance and delusion and reject the advice of their commander in chief. ellen sherman and julia grant intelligently supported their husband's best instincts including trust in and admiration for lincoln and rebuffed their worst. ellen and julia were among lincoln's strongest allies in the war effort. they were their husband's centers of gravi

oh, yes, i guess the one i would grant julia grant like to being first lady. there's a granted and i was going to say helen taft, you know, helen taft everybody says she got her husband to the white house because he was in line for an appointment to the supreme court under theodore roosevelt and helen taft got wind of that and she went over and met the president and talk to him and after she did the president talk to her husband and said i can see why an appointment to the supreme court is not what you want at this time. and then of course taft went ahead and won the presidency and the story is that helen rushed down from her seat in the in the capital where he was being inaugurated and gotten the car because before then the assistant always rode back to the white house with the new president and she made sure she was sitting beside her husband and rode back and then when they they got there they walked in and this is perhaps apocryphal but she said, okay i made you president now, let's see what you'll do with it. so, yes, unfortunately, you know, she had a str