tavis: utah, karadzic -- courageously, i think, my word, not yours, courageously about your daughter, the disconnect, the reconnect, and i wonder going through the text how much of that we connection had to do with you are, if in fact it did, had to do with your not wanting her to grow up disconnected from a parent, like marcus grew up disconnected from a birth parent? >> writing about my daughter was probably the hardest part. tavis: i thought it probably was. >> for so many reasons, but more than anything, i wanted to protect her. she knows that i have always loved her and have always loved her and will be there as a way i can be there for her as a family, as a father. i had to get help from my mother and sisters to learn that. this one was not necessarily on them. this one, i wanted to say, but i also wanted to be honest to say that i was a child when it happened, and i was becoming a man, and as i was moving into becoming a man, i was more ready to live up to my responsibilities. i thought about a lot of black men, the classic number of a black man not taking care of his child, an