but i think at this point we've come to accept that that's the way she has and we just hate kareshi is. and i think that it helps because then were not disappointed. but i do hope that she can be a better grandmother. and i know people change. i know my great-grandmother, my mother said she wasn't such a great mother to her, but to us, she was the most wonderful grand other in the world. so i'm hoping that's the way my children feel for her as well, that she's an awesome grandmother. and that's all i want, you know, for my kids to have a good relationship with her. >> host: reyna grande, has your mother been able to read this book, or does she know within that? >> guest: she hasn't been able to read the book because it's in english and a mother does not became flesh. she knows somewhat by the senate because i told her, this is a story about my childhood and about my growing up in the u.s. senate right about you, my dad, but i don't think my mother really understand how i saw her as a daughter and how her actions determined my childhood, you know, and how my childhood was really defined