and karissa in her book, points to the massive of the movie the help, which came out when michelle obama was first lady and really posits that, you know, many americans, white americans, you know, because of racism, uncomfortable with the idea of a black first lady reigning over the domestic sphere and in the help. of course, the you know the black women in that movie are upholding a white woman's domestic space. so she really posited that because of this racist discomfort with a black woman in our nation's most visible domestic space, the the help a sort of release valve that racist you backlash against michelle obama. so that's all her analysis and just included it in the book. yeah i just thought it was really interesting, like the way that michelle called herself the mom in chief and still right. we were like, you know the was not as accepting clearly it should have been and then there's still all these like in the mom lawrence or space, it's really like the biggest accounts are dominated by white women and talk a lot about the cult of domesticity. can you talk about that? tell every