kathy siegrist: at that point, one female in the church that you would see him with in a corner, talkingchurch. reporter: meanwhile, as kathy saw it, her best friend, jewel, was frozen out of the pastor's affection. kathy siegrist: i never saw anything affectionate from him to jewel. i don't think i ever saw then kiss. he never hugged her. i don't know if i ever saw him hold her hand, actually. reporter: one disappointment towered over the others. for months, kathy says, jewel had been looking forward to a big 30th wedding anniversary treat, a trip to new york city to see "the phantom of the opera." she'd bought tickets to surprise ab, but when the time came, he announced that he wasn't going. ab had a wedding to officiate. did that break her heart a little bit, when he said i'm not going? i think pretty much. she called me up and she said, i can kick and scream all i want, and he's not going to care and he's not going to come, so will you come with me? sure, i will. reporter: during jewel's favorite song in the broadway show, kathy remembers jewel calling ab so he could listen in, but s