recollection is domestic partnership, my husband and i got did not require supporting signed by kevin sally. i don't it was a burden. i think the domestic partnership thing is really challenging because you are trying to, frankly, impose heterosexual norms on relationships that are explicitly outside of heterosexual norms. so there may not be living together. they may not on stuff together. but this is a relationship of mutual dependency. so you're going to ask him for things that are separate. many people--there are people i know who don't believe in marriage. so,-i just have to say i know why you do this but i just got through doing this with my prior employer and you are basically asking people to do work to get something they're legally entitled to. you have to be very cognizant of that. you have to be-zero asking people to go stew stuff. these benefits are ours by right. i just-i don't know if anybody has been through that employer dependent spouses verification thing, but i've been through it twice and i've got to tell you, the first time i went through it, i thought they were trying