i think that they're still in american society the view that what it kurz behind closed doors remains behind closed doors and what happens between two into memes a husband or wife or a boyfriend and a girlfriend really is their business the media generally reflects to some extent what is going on in society and it very much comes from this patriarchal idea of man as ruler and then in order to take control of his possessions which included house property cattle children and females spare the rod spoil the child that also translated to women as well so essentially what happens with the woman is she goes from being under the rule of her father that is then transferred to her husband and i think this is often why people find this somewhat humorous but it's really not humorous. when they talk back women that cost a lot and women that just were not under very good control it was deemed necessary to use force not. tell me you're sorry. sir there's only one way to beating kicking those types of things that plays into the idea that women essentially that are being abused somehow are deserving