, the years and yea rs father, lance hart, the years and years and the fact that they did not realisel in most families. so, do listen, do watch the interview, which is coming up after 10am. they are two quite remarkable and very courageous young men. that is just after 10am this morning. lots and lots and lots of you have beenin lots and lots and lots of you have been in touch to say how much you are enjoying our election blind dates series, where we bring together two people over lunch, two people with very different views. today, tv historian and feminist mary beard meets strip club owner peter stringfellow. they both claim to be feminists — but who will win the argument? there is quite a lot of flirting. this is how they got on. there is an election on and people are talking politics. so what happens when you send two people with opposing views on the launch date? i'm well nervous. this has been so long, literally! will sparks fly? you see people who can work and choose not to. it angers me. you look gloriously distinguished and slightly hunky. you are quite a pretty lady. get tha

lance hart killed his wife claire and daughter charlotte outside a swimming pool in spalding last julyset of the perpetrator. they spoke exclusively to my colleague victoria derbyshire and described a "lifetime of struggle" in enduring their father's controlling behaviour. we realised that he had slowly taking everything away from us. that was when we decided we had to leave. was their physical violence? no. and i think that's why we were so blind to our situation. we were both looking for physical violence. all of us were. that was our sign that it was abuse. so, i think like you said, the ratcheting away over decades. we did not realise in that situation, we did not understand it for what actually it was. that's one of the messages we want to get out. physical violence is not the only sign of domestic abuse. quite often there is no physical violence. in our case, people would have seen it as may be just a normal family. dad who was a bit angry sometimes? people used the word is protective and expose to us it was euphemistic. he was protective but he would never let us protect ourselv