we're looking at the cover of the book there and we see leeza gibbons and many know her from her days as an entertainment reporter and a talk show host. you spend a lot of time with her in writing the book and talking about the issue. what was that like. >> it was really the way we figured out, take your oxygen first, because she lived it and she had lived through her grandmother and her mother having alzheimer's disease and figured out quickly that if she didn't take care of herself and her own oxygen first, she was going to be of no use to her mother and her family. >> amy: the burnout factor is high and as women we tend to be the ones who take on the burden. >> right. and most care givers are still women, though i will say, that the latest report coming out of the aarp in 2015 shows men at and more men are taking on the role as well. and you are right. it is usually william the average care giver would be 45 -- women. the average care giver is 45, years old and taking care of young adults and their parents as well and it is stressful, different fox that go into keeping a family tog