and i we because lenore skenazy actually helped me to write some of those later chapters with specific advice for parents. and it true that that some of them are more accessible to parents who are or in the upper third of the income distribution than to the lower third. that certainly is true. but a lot of it but put it this way, there is so much concern about inequality ity and about disadvantaged and underserved kids that a lot of these programs are really available to kids from any income level. so for example, i'm a huge fan of summer camp, summer camp, sleepaway camp is pretty much the only way you're ever going to get kids to go phone free for a month and it's transformative when they do, they get completely detoxed. they lose addiction. but yes, of course it costs money. now for more than 100 years, there've been all kinds of organizations trying to bring from this from the city, poor kids immigrant kids out to camps there, all kinds programs. i gave a talk the camp directors association a couple of months ago in new orleans and it was really clear, you know, it's true that of t

there are a lot of things you can do, but that is the yeah, that's the idea i just saw lenore skenazy here is and want to get back to the to play lenore is the founder of let grow is a great organization that is trying to bring freedom free. and thank you. so if interested in more on that subject look up let grow. let's talk about the rise of social emotional learning. you document how this permeates our classrooms. it's not something outside of curriculum. it's being put into the curriculum what is this do you know how this started? and once how did it spread all over the whole country and tell us what a bones and no bones day is so i think it about 15 years ago and again like a lot of things that aren't actually good and have some harmful it started out you know potentially with with good intentions. some people dispute that by the way. but but i give a general to try to give things the benefit of the doubt. and a lot of people who bought into it, i think, had good intentions. and the idea is we're going to teach you how to emotionally regulate a series of classes. but this is for k