. >> lisa dolan: moving on...on't know why, just for me, "moving on" denotes leavaving bob behind, and moving on, going someplace without him. i prefer the term "moving forward" because it doesn't, to me, have the same feel or sound of leaving my husband behind. >> elaine donovan: for us, there is no happy ending there is noo ending. it's jus 9/11 is this... i don't even know how to describe it; it is part of you, if you don't lrn to manage it you're not goioing to do welell. it never goes away, there will never be a day that i don't think about t it, i don't think about bill; there will never be a 9/11 that i can walk through my day and go, "w, 20 years ago today mymy husband dieied." you realize it's just a part o of your life, and that's just the way it is. >> narrator: of those who perished at thpentagon on 9/11, only 55 were members of the military. seventy others were civilians workinat or visiting the pentag, and 59 were killed while flying on erican airlines flight 77. r the families of the 18184 men, wome