. >> we are now joined by therapist liz mandel. we've been talking today about the impact a lot like this has on family, friends cap, the young man leaves a girl from behind and community that is looking for answer. thanks for joining us on chasing you. >> thank you. >> what is going through the minds and emotions of these kids who have now lost a close friend. >> shock, utter shock and disbelief. there is a void left in these people's hearts, minds, they are very disoriented. they're experiencing challenges and a sense of reality because one day you have someone in your life and the next day they are gone. people have to really ban together and give each other and a lot of support during this time. >> what is your professional take on the young man's girlfriend. i know there has been a lot of facebook posts out there, she has has talked about how she wanted to marry him. it is absolutely heart wrenching. what you see from a perspective of how she is dealing with in coping with it question. >> it's similar to a fear of abandonment.