but, also, you know, just in talking about loneliness as a construct.ng in a relationship and feeling lonely. when you are living alone, the loneliness is not -- it's very different. >> that's right. >> so when you start to look and you expand the narratives of what it is, you get to examine things like that that there is this assumption because you are in a relationship that you're not lonely. >> absolutely. >> and i think to explore that is really interesting. >> rebecca? >> i'm fascinated by the notion that i think we talk often as if there is one answer and the idea of being coupled what she is saying is the idea of being coupled is one result and living solo and the thing i love about your cyclical formation is what it's coming down to is a more fluid society in which we can make choices as we go along rather than consigned to a historic script and gives us more power. >> to tie into the theme this morning. those kinds of changes of more choice, a, can be personally terrifying and socially disruptive. social disruption produces actual conflict. >>

and in this approximate silence we have felt that not regreting has spared us loneliness. called at the door. you did not tell me about these hours, how thick they were and wounded. i hear myself telling someone to punch me just to figure the order of my beliefs. someone else in my clothes who would view this and move on. explain again the conditions that will bring along the morning and what it is here that convenes the night. and then the last poem is called upon living. they shove your feet out of the smokestack kitchen. they narrow the big sea sba a line of your sweat and then they take away your last word and then they take away another. now you put the keys back in your pocket and now you push on the door until it is in flame, until it is in flame. next reader is jane herschfield. . >> one sand grain among the others in winter wind. i wake with my hand held over the place of grief in my body. depend on nothing, the voice advices, but even that is useless. my ears are useless, my familiar and intimate tongue, my protecting hand is useless that wants to hold the single

days full of loud, angry, determined crowds and days deep in loneliness, peaceful marches were met with applause places. violence in others. people were hurt and people divide church for a little girl sunday school. none of that happened to you. so, why offer don't have? remembering can be painful, even frightening. but it can also swell your heart and open your whenever i see sheets drying on a flood of memories comes back to me.en i traveled in the rural south with a group of students, we rece generosity from strangers, african-americans who took us in, when there were nola to eat. they were strangers who gave up their ownesse them in brilliant white linen, smelling of pine. they fed us from their gardens and were so insistent on not being paid. we had to hide money in the pillow slips so they would find it long after we were gone. these were country people or city people, denied adequate education, relegated to a tiny balcony area in a movie theater. ba backs of buses, separate water fountains, menial jobs or not. like me, they were ordinary people. yet although their lives were driv

that isolation and loneliness that accompanies that, the have not been heard by adults and people and had not seen partners in their areas. the consideration of suicide has been unveiled in this country because of that. the trevor project and the it gets better movement started about 1.5 years ago. it has made it through different point of the country -- different parts of the country, political persons of notoriety, including nancy pelosi all the way up to secretary of state clinton and president obama himself, recently. we felt and i have very much supported the collaboration that lee did with our chief and the war department to get everybody to speak out on this and contribute to this very necessary content -- campaign of education. representatives of our school department, are unified school district, our public safety agencies, to share in this responsibility that we need to talk to our kids. we need to tell them the words that are here. we need to put it in a way in which it really gets to them. it is not only well done, but you cannot walk away and not be emotional about wantin

i think part of it is is the emptiness and loneliness of being such a star.hink that you can't use that time of loneliness to allow, as my mother used to say, the devil to do his work and make you become susceptible to other things to eat up your time. >> one can only imagine, i mean, it is not the nature of this world that a parent is supposed to bury a child. doesn't happen that way. >> right. >> you know her mom. i mean, did she fear this would happen, that whitney would go too soon? >> we never had that conversation. and i do know that she had participated in a healing session for her daughter and others in harlem, at a harlem church. i went and spoke, about three, four years ago. i certainly think she understood the gravity of it, not only for whitney but for a lot of people. but i don't know that she feared death or not. i don't know. we never had that personal conversation. but obviously, it's an awesome burden for a mother or father to bury their own. it's just not supposed to happen that way. >> no, it is not. our office politics conversation will co

the longings, fears and loneliness of a boy coming suddenly into manhood. this was so like the developing state of the nation itself. soldier and nation together found that their fears and doubts were not so strong as their faith in the cause of a unified country. the soldier in blue kept that faith and fought for it with ste steadfastness and courage, and a grateful people in the midst of war forged a medal to honor their courage. in the swarming fury of this war of american against american, the medal of war was born. the end we know, because we live in the unity that this tragic war preserved. and in national shrines like t gettysburg, we honored the men of both sides who gave what they believed to be right. ♪ >> here are the names. the last of the men in blue are gone. but the union they preserved remains. and honors for all time, the men who made it possible. and right over here is a roll call of names from the years which followed the civil war, the time when the nation grew, expanding westward, the west. charged with the task of making the frontier s

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through so much, where does she go, where does she find the streth tbattle the fear, to battle the loneliness?" >> through me, in the first months and maybe years of my marriage, i remember feeling extremely protective of my husband. and i kind of acted as... when we were together, i acted almost like another member of his security. i was always... >> hinojosa: i was shocked to read that, honestly. i was like, "oh, my gosh, she's stanng in front of him?" >>t s just an instinctiv.. it was just instinctive, because... and this is where the answer to your question comes in. because he represented not only the love of my life and the father of my children and my partner and so much that was important to me in terms of my work, but he represented so much in terms of the hope and prospects for peace in our region, because of the example he set, and because of his constant 24-7 efforts to achieve that. i can attest to that, because he was working to achieve peace in his dreams. i heard it at night. and that is... so that was the reason that i felt so protective of him, because he was something so mu

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moment there where the grandkids get to have a close relationship with their grandparents and less loneliness. >> you have to talk to each other and know what the expectations are. >> i think so. >> like the laundry. that was an added perk for him. but everyone has to have a set of rules and know what bills they're going pay, what their job is going to be. >> and the truth of the matter is, with families, there's the potential for lots of communication and conflict. also, if you have a bit of family, i love the idea of creating a contract, that's that's black and white where people can know who is handling the mortgage? who is doing the cooking? who is doing the child care? so you have something to refer back to. >>> costs are exploding for elder care, for day care for children. living together can ease that. it also means consolidating heating and mortgage expenses, all smart ways to deal with an economy that's increasingly difficult for the middle class. here is the bottom line. decide early who will be paying for the construction if there's a renovation and who will be paying which monthly

towards her, either after lincoln's death or even after hers, did they realize the extent of the loneliness, the wandering? >> right. i'm very glad that i get this question. the best one-sentence biography that's been written on mary lincoln was written by her sister, elizabeth, who said, she's had a lot to deal with and she hasn't dealt with it very well. and i think if we all started there it would help. mary lincoln has three reasons to get up in the morning -- her boys, her husband, and her advancement. her ascent to the presidency. well, three of her boys die early, one commits her to an insane asylum, her husband is murdered while she's holding his hand, and she becomes the scapegoat of the entire war. that's a lot to deal with. and she didn't deal with it very well. and it's such a study in contrast, the degree to which the nation refuses to even pity her. she becomes this diva of grief, she seems histrionic, they can't find a place in their heart despite all of those things that have happened. and the contrast to emily, who goes on to be for 70 years the widow of benjamin hardin hel

>> i think there are moments of loneliness in the white house, but when you live here, because you are so aware of everyone that lived here before you and every challenge that our country has faced before us, you're encouraged. i think there's always a feeling of encouragement, a real strong faith in the american people and our ability as a people to overcome challenges. certainly, lincoln is the larger than life president in the times he lived here were so very, very difficult for our country, at war with itself. and also so difficult for him and his wife, personally. willy died, their child, died in the lincoln bed when it was down the hall across from what was probably their bedroom, although we're not sure what bedrooms the lincolns used, from our records. but probably they brought him to that bed, when he got sick, so that he'd be right across the hall from them. so you're knowing how other presidents and other families who lived here faced both the public challenges, the challenges of war or other challenges that our country faces, and their own private sadnesses, sometimes. regu

in a department store first and moving furniture in a hotel and painting my pictures, but out of lonelinessted reading for the first ttme of my life, seriously richer. i mean, i had read what i was supposed to read in high school, what was. >> smith: right. >> banks: .on the sylllbus but i had never really engaged on a personal level the, the, the literature of the world and, and taken it personally. >> smith: so hemingway? >> banks: yeah i started at hemingway, short sentences, hey i can imitate that and i'd start trying to do it, well no it's a little more& complicated than that so. >> smith: right. >> banks: so hen faulkner, see -- oh, it's long words and all tangled together and i can do that too. complicated. but i started imitating, like a clever monkey, what i was falling in love with which was literature. >> smith: yeah. >> banks: and after bout two eaas i was shapinn my life around this activity. >> smith: yeah. >> banks: .and then i could ssy well iimust be a writer, this.everything about my life is determined by this activity. >> smith: it's heartening to hear that you wrestled w

they feared chaos of freedom, and they feared the loneliness of it. williams embraced all that. freedom, he believed, was worth it, his wife and all. risking one's life is rare, but not so rare that it is not seen on many. roger williams, this devout. and, man of faith to love god, willing to risk more than his life for all the remarkable things he said, the most remarkable was this, having brought to bear we must not so cheap, nor the least crane of it for the whole world, no, not for the saving of souls of our own most precious. so he knew that to believe in freedom and liberty required faith in the freedom of thought of conscience, and that was liberty. and one last couple of paragraphs. winthrop wrote him soon after his banishment. as i said earlier, he maintained relationships. the first question williams answered, confess my gains the loss of friends, but he went on to say that he hoped to gain the excellency, the knowledge of christ, jesus my lord. later he spoke of freedom saying your case is the worst because you're very judgment and conscience leads you to spite their

in loneliness and desperation, aileen ended up with this man, >>this is that paper you were talking about? >>yeah, it's called, "my sex romps with kinky man killer." >>(narrator) dick has sold his story to the news of the world. >>all i wanna know is, who's the best lawyer out there, man, to sue them for this trash? i never talked that (bleep) >>they quote you. let me ask if you said this, right? "we were lying in bed one night when she started talking about her favorite sexual fantasies. she said she often got turned on by imagining she had a black hood over her head and was tied to a tree in the forest. then, a guy would come up, rape her, and shoot her in the head. she said the actually killing would make her climax. i was real sickened by what she said." >>wrong. wrong. there's partial truth to that, but most of that, i don't know what it came from, or who got it, or nothing about it. you can check any film anywhere in the country, or any one that's got it. i never said that. ok? it goes along the line that, uh, she told me one time that the idea was that she liked to lay in bed out i

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i guess for most people when they come to prison, the hardest part about being in prison is the lonelinesse in prison. but that's not for me. i'm not lonely and i can have companionship. >> sex in prison is supposed to be a no-no but it happens. people spend a lot of time together. it is what it is, you know. >> this is my second time here at seward. the last time i was here, oh my god. me and the boyfriend lived in the same cell. we had the matching comforters and the matching jackets and whatever. we had packages come in and always have the matching set or whatever. we were a little couple, you know what i'm saying? dysfunctional but it's all right. so i don't try as hard to stay out of prison like i should. which brings me back to places like this. >> though both sam and polando talk openly about their sexual experiences in prison, their outlooks are quite different. >> of course i'm not. oh, my god. i don't want to get into my partners. but you know. i'm not going to go without. please. >> let's see. i've had relationships before in jail that were long-standing. and you know, eventuall

i don't know in i left him ♪ ♪ but the light of day shows me how ♪ ♪ and with the nightfall the lonelinessomebody i want to feel the heat with somebody ♪ ♪ yeah, i want to dance with somebody ♪ ♪ with somebody who loves me >> as that song is playing, i'm sitting here just tapping my feet, because it does exactly what the song says, it makes you want to dance. this is one of whitney houston's very first hits and i remember hearing this song, piers, see thing video and i went, oh, my gosh, who is this woman? beautiful in this video. whitney would laugh, because she would say i'm not much of a dancer. she wasn't a great dancer, so she did the same little move in every single video. as clive will tell you, she sat her down a lot, but boy, could she sing. >> i don't think it really matters how you dance if you can sing like whitney houston did. she was incredible. i watched "the bodyguard" again recently and just the music, the songs, the way she sang, the power and the range, we've seen some amazing singers. barbra streisand, aretha franklin, many of them, mariah carey, it's hard to think of a

whether they were sorrowful or happy, moments of great loneliness or moments of great communion. we live for these moments in our life. and i do think poetry that is a way of -- it's a way of recognizing the moments, first of all, in your life. but also a way of preserving them. >> so this intensity visited you when you fell in love. you felt it again, when you had a diagnosis. tell me about that. what was the disease? >> it's called waldenstrÖm's macroglobulinemia. and there have been complications after that. so i have some additional things now. but it's a very rare cancer. it is in the bone marrow, primarily. but also it's everywhere in your body. and it is completely unpredictable. some people die quickly, some people live 30 years with it. and it doesn't even change. it doesn't even do anything in their bodies. >> but you were told, if i understand it, that you could die very soon. >> it looked like it at the beginning. and i've had two-- i've had a bone marrow transplant. so i have been on the verge of dying a couple of times. so it's been very difficult. i think less so b