and as ktvu's loraine blanco reports from oakland, that was also true at the raider games. >> reporter: fans pumped up. >> kids playing football. >> last game of the year. >> surf and turf on the grill. all the expected sights of a raider tailgate. but today there's a feeling of pain. the stadium put their flags at half staff. >> it's all on our minds. we're here for the football. but we're remembering. and we're just trying to get through it and just trying to put a little tribute out to those guys. >> reporter: across the nfl and here at the stadium players stopped for a moment of silence to think about the children at sandy hook elementary. some people held up messages. >> for all the families, all the raider nation, this is from us. >> i cried all day friday, and today was get away and just try and en -- enjoy myself a little bit. >> reporter: when t.j. heard about the shooting, he just wanted to be home with his 7-year-old. >> i said where is ethena. is she at school? is she okay. it's pretty devastating and my hearts goes out to those families. >> reporter: the 49ers were in foxb