[laughter] it's a lunchable. get it? they're all bad mother prizes. [applause] and i would just like to point out that finding a lunchable in trie beck ca is, i don't know, trying to find a jew at the vatican. it's impossible. [laughter] okay. now you know the prizes are good. >> i don't know what a lunchable is. so first of all i just want to confess that as much as i love you and your book that i will not be buying it because i live in park slope and my wife lives in rim which means this is a documentary to us. >> excellent. but you still have to buy it, come on, dude, and don't say it on c-span. >> so look, the question is to what degree do you think that sort of the intensity, the professionalization, i would say of parenting and particularly motherhood is about all these chicks like you and me, we're middle class, upper middle class, we went to good schools, we got degrees, and at some point a lot of women decided they would rather stay home and raise children, and i feel like the intensity that people are bringing that is sort of the intensity o