>> lydia raised something important about sharing, whether it's friends and so forth., if you can talk a little bit in all of us too about the cultural influences on being a good parent. and what type of influence that has. >> tremendous. and i think those of us who go home to parents who really came from a whole different culture, we go to school, and we're taught to behave differently, and then, as we grow up, become mothers, we've got these two standards. interestingly, i have a mother-in-law who is very western thinking. i have my mom who's very asian thinking. and i remember, when i was raising my children, my mother's philosophy was never let a child cry because there must be a reason. and my mother-in-law, very weste western, just let them cry. eventually they'll get it out of their system. here i was trying to l battle t best of both cultures, and i had decide where my comfort level was. >> which worked best for you? i'm curious. >> sometimes i let them cry, and sometimes i felt there was a reason. so i think at some point the cultural issues are there. they're