maria shriver was asked about this just. recently about her her upbringing with eunice shriver. and she said, well, i didn't get a lot of love and affection and hugs and kisses from my mother. but you can't give what you never got. hey, god. but joe was i mean, joe, people remarked about how joe kissed his his son. he was he was amazing, as you know, as i know from reading your book, the patriarch he was an amazingly individual and nowhere so than in his family his sons and daughters adored him and they would do almost anything, win his favor even more so he was in and out of the family. he would leave and go to the west coast for three years to be a hollywood tycoon and then come back. but or he would stay in england as the us ambassador. well, they stayed home, but he was always writing these letters to them and. they were writing back and you can that the bond was much warmer and deeper with the dad than was with mark. but you know, one of the more remarkable things is that rose jackson does the same thing at some point when he's a kid about his mother, he says, you know, you