potency. can you take us back to that time and mark martin was eight yea rs that time and mark martin was eight death and you may not want to talk about it and some people pretend never happened and then you get offended that they did that. your emotions in the way your mind works is, your world has stopped and why has everybody else's continued? i remember being really miffed, disappointed and upset that the postman was still delivering post so going back to work was just something that would have been incomprehensible at the time. you do gradually realise. two weeks is better. but it's still not enough. we've got to start you need to build on that. i suppose in the way, greek and he too had very different times. the immediate aftermath, that can come back at you at any time, can't it? it can be a song or a tv programme or a word that somebody uses. you never know what it is that's going trigger that grief again. it's always in you. you never lose it. it's just again. it's always in you. you never lose it. it'sjust something again. it's always in you. you never lose it. it's just something tha