he said, mary futrell, i can't believe you are advocating this, but he said i have confidence in you. and if you think this is what we should do and if you are willing to put this task force in and set aside the resources i will talk to the alabama delegation. and i knew he was upset when i saw him. when he told me that, i just gave him a hug because -- >> what you're describing is a consultative process where the people who are against are talked to and, even though they have different arguments, you manage to say, well, i'm going to meet this argument this way and meet this argument this way. >> right. >> how did you develop this style? does it go back to early leadership positions? high school? student government? >> well, i think it came about because, as i worked with people -- again, i may disagree with you, but i can disagree with you without being disagreeable. i need to respect you. i need to listen to you. and even though we may disagree on the issue, we maybe can agree on how to respond to the basic concepts contained there. the concept there was how do we make sure that th