matthew hussey. >> matthew hussey.ssey. >> matthew hussey. okay, now, we have a woman waiting with a question, jessie -- >> with bated breath. >> yes. okay, go ahead, jess. >> hey, hoda, hey, kathie lee, hey, matt. what is the best way to ask a guy if he sees the relationship going anywhere without sounding too pushy? >> okay. good question. >> okay, so, it's not easy, firstly, to ask him if it's going anywhere without sounding pushy. firstly, here's what you say. >> what? >> you say firstly, i would love to give more to this relationship and i know i can, but personally, i don't know if you're in this the same way i am, i don't know if you see where this is going and ask him that. you make it clear that it's okay if it's not going anywhere. look, if it's not going anywhere, that's fine. >> but you'd like to know. >> i should know so i know at what level i should be investing in this thing. that will raise your level. you're not going to invest just because you like him, you're doing it because there's something mutual

it's elle's advice and i heart radio with matthew husbandy. husseyunce to my husband to stick to the traditional plans? >> they want to split the plans. >> i think it's really tough. it means more to them than to you. >> your lichristmas is about family. you have to communicate with them. i want our time where we have our special time and our traditions and quirks and moments, but i also want to make you happy and your family happy. i would also say why is she not inviting it. if she was being more expansive, i want to embrace it and make it a great day. >> i have an idea. you say darling, thank god your parents are coming for new year's eve. i love them christmas eve. now, darling, i have been thinking and as you say that, you pull out a box with a bow. christmas morning when the kids are opening the presents, this is what i had in mind for you on christmas morning. >> what's in the box? >> there is a promise. what a special treat that she is going to enjoy with her husband personally. >> all day christmas day. then she says how about new years day