. >> reporter: matthew leili appeared tired and dazed as a judge read him the charges. >> reporter: dazed, maybe, but not confused. from behind bars awaiting trial, these recordings obtained by "20/20" reveal leili has an audacious plan to spring himself. >> make sure you tell people we have set up a youtube channel. to tell you the truth about what happened in our home. >> okay. >> reporter: his secret weapon? his own daughters, amanda and rebecca. they get father-knows-best instructions from a jailhouse phone calls to launch a youtube crusade to defend him against nique's family. >> all these years we were told to be silent. to protect mom's image. we can't be silent anymore. >> okay. >> my daddy's now in jail because of these false allegations, it's time we tell the truth. that's even better. >> reporter: just listen, they execute his instructions almost word for word. >> and it's finally time for us to tell the truth and for us to call them out on their lies and -- >> now's our chance. >> say something insulting, from this, pathological lying family that doesn't want their dirty laund

. >> matthew -- >> in this telephone call which the detective recorded, matt leili said his wife wasentally unbalanced. >> she is not very happy with her life. she has never felt accepted, okay. we've been in and out of therapists. there's a fear of intimacy. you know, she's got no problem with girls. but when it comes to a male, they are a threat. they are -- all my life, guys have used me for sex. >> he is getting a host of information. i have a hard time getting a word in edgewise. >> she yells at me in front of the kids. she throws things at me in front of the kids. all i'm doing is sitting there going, please stop. please stop. do you remember what the doctor said. is this the person you want to be? >> matt leili said he considered getting a court order to protect him from his wife. >> has she ever been violent? >> yeah. i have pictures of myself with bruises on me. my father is a witness of her throwing a knife at my face. i am 250 pounds, 6'5". she's 98 pounds soaking wet. i'm being beaten up by my wife. who is going to believe me. >> he's telling you that she's bats. >> that'