author and therapist melissa cohen is here with some advice. hi.be here. >> if i'm having a problem with a friend, is that a sign we >> of course not.nd it's inevitable. it's something that we all do. it's just how we deal with the conflict that's key.ve ways that people deal with conflict. so let's start with one of the most common responses -- avoidance. >> avoiding. over and forgetting it ever happened. it's very common. >> then there's accommodate.at? >> accommodate means that the relationship is more important than the issue, so we tend to let it go. >> force is next.nd too promising. >> no. this is when we'll do anything to win at all costs. we want it our way or nothing else. opposite of winning at all costs -- compromise. >> compromise is when we give a little and we get a little.ir way. >> finally, there's collaborate or negotiate. >> okay, this is when we workth >> okay. so, summing up, the ways most people deal with conflict are... with those in mind, what suggestions do you have to help us deal with conflict? >> well, first and fore

mistakes, we're joined by melissa cohen. she's an author and an expert on education. welcome. >> hi. it's a pleasure to be here. >> choosing a college seems pretty scary for most of us. >> of course. it's one of the biggest decisions you'll make as a teenager, but it doesn't have to be the hardest. >> you have a list of the top five mistakes teens make. so let's start with number five. you say that it's not smart to pick a school simply because someone we know went there. >> yes. parents, relatives, and friends often encourage us to go to the schools that they went to, 'cause they had a great time. just because they had a wonderful experience doesn't mean that you will, too. what's a good fit for one person isn't necessarily a good fit for another. >> doesn't being a legacy help you to get in? >> no. being a legacy is just a factor on your application. it does not guarantee admission. >> okay. so, what's the next thing to avoid basing your school decisions on? >> the social life. just because a school has great not mean it's the place for you. you're there for to lear

author and therapist melissa cohen is here with some advice. hi. >> hi. it's nice to be here. >> if i'm having a problem with a friend, is that a sign we shouldn't be friends? >> of course not. conflict is healthy, and it's inevitable. it's something that we all do. it's just how we deal with the conflict that's key. >> you have a list of five ways that people deal with conflict. so let's start with one of the most common responses -- avoidance. >> avoiding. this is smoothing it over and forgetting it ever happened. >> then there's accommodate. what do you mean by that? >> accommodate means that the relationship is more important than the issue, so we tend to let it go. >> force is next. that doesn't sound too promising. >> no. this is when we'll do anything to win at all costs. we want it our way or nothing else. >> that brings us to the opposite of winning at all costs -- compromise. >> compromise is when we give a little and we get a little. no one really gets their way. >> finally, there's collaborate or negotiate. >> okay, this is when we work togeth