. >> you only have to hear melissa ethridge once, you only have to hear it once. she's an outspoken person on all kinds of things close to her heart. welcome. >> thank you. >> you have a wonderful fiery soul offstage, don't you? >> i'm just making some choices? >> when you look at your extraordinary life, professional and personal, how do you feel now about where you've arrived, where you are right now? >> i think at this point, i'm 51 now. i've realized, oh, it's just a journey. you never get there. you never get it done. it's all about how you're doing it. >> that is so true. you will never actually arrive, are you? >> no. >> this train never gets to a station? it does not. there is no there there. for myself, who, you know, i've achieved some of those markers that you think, oh, the oscar, those things, and each time, i go, there's no there here. that's nice, that's great but it's about how am i doing and how's this journey? >> what's been the best pitstop on your train so far? what's been the moment, if i could replay it for you, you'd relive. >> oh. >> can't