. >> father michael sweepey has beautiful court marriage is for the healing, perfecting and exalting of the spouses. >> exalt something good. >> s that great. >> feeling perfecting and. >> healing as you said all the things we didn't get. perfecting because you have a mirror. and i think i am a generous guy. when i am in a relationship i see maybe not so. and ultimately -- >> i say it's the frightening thing. i am a reserved person. but you exposed to that other person and that person has to -- you are out there being known and that's not entirely attractive. on the one hand you see the benefits, she knows me and cares about me, but on the other it's a full time job. >> first corinthians 4 verse 28 28 he who marries has trouble in their life i tell the couples this and they look at me why are you telling me this and i say iget the phone calls and i think trouble, marriage it's right. because we are not perfect and when we have the mirror we see the imperfectss and marriage is a vehicle god uses if we allow him to to learn how to love which is difficult. >> that's good. yes. and we wi