[laughter] >> michelle bauman and barack obama note mets in the losses there is to act more of a of officeove but people get caught up with stuff lust. i ended december out. >> i was kidding end now he is blushing. [laughter] >> i'm good. [laughter] >> if you are in a high-pressure career as an actor or a heart surgeon getting calls in the middle of the night he wants someone who understood and your business he will be away three months or get a call at 2:00 in the morning sun makes sense. >> forget it. it is a terrible idea and not just from the investment standpoint if you get married both of you are in comes are tied to the one company. melissa: that is a great point. that is true. >> one couple both worked at lehman brothers they both lost life-saving as. melissa: very practical this you have these ugly breakup you are forced to see the person every single day that reason alone it would now work out. >> itetracts from productivity if you can get away from the focus of your job and people that they interviewed in the survey said of what can be distracted. as fine as this sounds it could