more than cousin mildred might be offended if you get the date wrong. westminster abbey is still the favored site for the wedding, where most royal weddings, including the queen's have taken place, not to mention 38 core nations and, of course, where diana's funeral was held and where william, as a 15-year-old, spent perhaps the saddest day of his life. but william has already brought diana's marriage to this marriage by giving her engagement ring to his fiancee. the spectre of diana isn't being avoided in this wedding but embraced. >> this is my way of sort of keeping her clos to it all. >> i just hope i lose after it. it's very, very special. >> reporter: the other major issue how big or not the wedding should be. another charles and diana fairy-tale extravaganza is probably not the plan. >> they have to do it differently because the one that went before that's in everybody's minds was such a crash and burn. it may not have been, you know, the bolt from the blue that we all want from the fairy-tale but maybe it's better for them. >> reporter: as for w