and mitch abrams a sports psychologist who has worked extensively with athletes who face these abuseswelcome even to "the stream." katherine coaches push athletes to try harder. that's their job. they yell, and put you through growling workouts. but at whatting point does hard core tough coaching become abusive? >> one of the things about being an elite athlete is you excel on your own. and you have an balanced relationship between your coach and yourself, and if you are in a dynamic where the coach is saying they made you, then you have really lost both your -- the equality in that relationship. and then you create a dynamic that is extremely dysfunctional, and moves into that extremely abuse environment. >> talk about what that environment was like for you. >> well, i mean for me the abuse was psychologically abusive, mentally abusive, and i had to deal with -- my -- my family -- my father was an amazing man, and how he supported me as a swimmer was absolutely amazing, and to go to him with my -- you know, like you are supposed to go to your papers, you know, with your pain and your