i was a mother. no matter what, i was a mother. >> reporter: being an unwed mother was a huge stigma at the time. >> not only were they treated as though it was a shameful experience but then they weren't able to grieve. you're losing your child essentially. >> reporter: coming up, a mother and son prepare themselves. >> i don't know how i'm going to handle this phone call. >> reporter: for a conversation they never thought would happen. >> deborah? >> yes. ♪ ♪ if it feels like you live in the bathroom with recurring constipation and belly pain, talk to your doctor and say yesss! to linzess. yesss! linzess treats adults with ibs with constipation or chronic constipation. linzess can help relieve your belly pain, and lets you have more frequent and complete bowel movements. linzess is not a laxative. it helps you get ahead of your recurring constipation. do not give linzess to children less than 6 and it should not be given to children 6 to less than 18, it may harm them. do not take linzess if you ha

and my mother said, yes, joan. and she said, my father wants very much to come and talk to him about this upcoming march. and my mother assured her that, if dr. bunch came to selma, she and my father would take excellent care of him. so the trip was planned. my father went to birmingham, picked dr. bunch up at the train station and brought him here. dr. bunch, of course, spent his life negotiating and standing for peace for people not only in this country, but around the world. he and dr. king shared similar goals, similar wishes for people in the united states and around the world. so he knew that this was such an important for voting rights march in this country. he wanted to give dr. king as much advice and help as he could, because i think both men knew that the possible passage of a voting rights act in this country would transform not only the united states, but would transform the global world house. the third bedroom in the jackson museum is the actual bedroom the morning of the selma to montgomery march, t

while her mother was conducting board meetings, my mother was down working with children in rehabilitation and teaching them to dance and different things. then she was diagnosed with breast cancer about six weeks after we had moved into the white house. and of course, that became so important to her, because it was her survival, too. it was not just all of women in america and men, because men do get breast cancer, but then it followed up with her drug and alcohol addiction. and i have continued both of those and am very devoted to them, and hopefully my daughters will, too. >> what do your daughters and your grandchildren think about the family history and the fact that they are born into it? are they as interested, do you think? do you think they will continue in the next generation and the generation beyond? ms. bales: i think my daughters will. there are five granddaughters total and there are two grandsons. the grandsons are still in college so they are a little young to step into this. i think all of us will continue that generational, and my granddaughter is 12. she remembers her g

mother?hat about your ms. bales: my mother was divorced at the time, and the story wasn't she was dating quite a few men in grand rapids and was a young divorcee. or 30 and 35 when they got married. my dad came back from the war and began to practice law, and my dad went up to one particular gentleman, who had been visiting her before -- she had one going in the front door and one going out the back -- she was quite a popular girl. >> a dancer? ms. bales: dancer, fashion coordinator, model. my dad and my mother saw this -- my dad under the streetlight asking the other gentlemen, how serious are you about betty? i am extremely serious and i wish you would move on. so he knew what he wanted and he got what he wanted. >> how long the time between when they met and got married? ms. bales: it was not long at all. it was a very short engagement. he did not announce his engagement to her until much later, because he was running the houserst seat in of representatives, and they that she, as a divorced woman, would tai

his mother must be dead.ther must have done it. >> and after that, it became more of, okay, where would he put her body? >> he was maybe 13 or 14 when he thought about those old coal mines around walsenburg. >> you actually went and looked? >> oh, yeah, i went through a lot of those mines myself. >> alone? >> mm-hmm. >> you're looking for the remains of your own mother. i mean, i can't imagine what that -- >> i can't explain it. it's always been a fire that just drives you to do something. >> and then one day -- >> i had been going through some of my dad's stuff in the basement. i found a box of stuff that she had supposedly taking with her. a denim jacket her mother had given her, passport was there. >> what was that like. >> that was kind of the final straw. >> naturally if she was gone, she would have taken those things with her. >> that was my final piece of the puzzle. >> he left it there. left the box in the basement and emerged a changed person. shannon told us, aaron wouldn't talk much about his mothe

what did your mother think?thinking she would be appalled that she would disown me but in fact, she loved it my mother was not a big reader but she said it was so easy to read. i knew what she meant later there was something that she no longer explained but what made her furious was in the book and i understood that about her. one of the funny things i discovered is my mother was getting a graduate degree in american literature. the onlye literature she ever read was my book. [laughter] she was precious. [laughter] >> you were a teenager when you lost your older brother. peter. he was a bit older than you. but six months after that your father died. they both died of brain tumors. that must have been extraordinary tragic on your mother but also as a teenage girl? >> the death of my brother and father affected me the most the way my mother reacted. she went a little insane and believed we would all die and became even more suicidal. but i was a daddy's girl i adored my big brother i just remember him in a way tha

zachary: probably my mother.rian: having said that, i'm going to put on the screen some things she said to you. zachary: yeah. brian: let's start out doing that. i'm not even going to read the whole thing, because it is tough for somebody like me to read this. "you ungrateful little bitch-ass," i am not going to use the n-word. "she told me through gritted teeth after she for herself out from yelling." why did you decide to use that language from your mother? zachary: that's the language she used with me. as a writer, one of the things i wanted to do, a risk a risk i wanted to take was to make myself vulnerable in writing the book. the main reason i wanted to do that is because i have come to believe that one of the best ways to build empathy and compassion is to take the risk of putting yourself out there. this was a painful experience i had with my mom. she spoke like this often, this wasn't a once in a while kind of thing. this was happening on a weekly basis. it shaped me, it informed how i view the world, ho

the kooky amount of my mother.she is vain and was as close and consumed with having been respected and that came from a mother who demanded to be respected and killed herself. i became my mother's daughter and i have attributes that come from her where if i'm bothered by something i cannot stopping talking about it. i'm on like her because i'm not suicidal. i have my choices. those revelations we find out facts and facts about yourself as well. i find myself in these revelations. there is one big revelation to me. in doing the research for this book i found evidence that my father and mother knew each other in a certain year when they were sent to be in this place when the japanese were bombing their cities and then met years earlier and fallen in love. my mother hadle a baby and i was always told she was told in born in shanghai. but she was born in [inaudible] but my s mother and father were there and my sister did not know who her father was. it was a possibility that her father, my half-sister, and her father w

when she was twenty my mother started her own family. together with my father ryan hold a german from her neighborhood the soviets called it west berlin. through the wars of grit. and you out of a neighbor's. place but it. just. this lady is from germany she used to live here she'd like to take some pictures to remember this place of course come in as if you don't want. to. live the onus on home. ok i'll just look around at what that has to run you can your mother for really could not have not what your son would think of for her. to leave the circle would that work for the sooner you start. getting closer to. sleep the sleep could just. go. out there to get let down. here. and this was just the entrance that happens this climate soil there was this little fence and different varieties of grapes grow that. the folks at that open air for satan is often. the friends went around here and there was the pergola. and the grapes grow up here. everything was green open. at the cut off that's where we planted the potatoes and tomatoes over there

if the only thing his mother has is her only child, let him enjoy his mother, let his mother enjoy himm. that's all they have. >> but the detectives who made the case against christopher tapp say they are still certain, well the search continues for >> but the detectives who made the case against christopher tapp say they are still certain, well the search continues for that third man, the dna donor, tapp and ben hobbs are killers as well. >> as for ben hobbs, he's still in prison in nevada, and still denies any involvement in angie's murder. he declined "dateline's" request for an interview. for dr. greg hampikian of idaho innocence project, the answer still lies not in the machinery of law, but in science. that dna left at the scene, it points, he says, to the simplest explanation, not to a third man or even a second one, but just one. >> one what are the chances that a story could remain a secret that many years if three people were involved? >> secrets can be kept but science reveals those secrets. somebody went in and committed a typical, violent, rape/murder and left typical evid

when she was twenty my mother started her own family. together with my father ryan hold a german from her neighborhood the soviets called it west berlin. one of the wars of good. and you out of a neighbor's. place but it. was just. then i think this lady is from germany she used to live here she'd like to take some pictures to remember this place of course come in as if you don't want. to. leave the onus on home. ok i'll just look around for the first run you can your mother privately put on your hat not what you think we're taking the time for. that would settle would you just look at the sooner you start. getting closer to. him seriously just. you know. how they are going to love. you. and this was just the entrance that got the school and it's like there was this little fence and different varieties of grapes grew that. the folks at that open air for satan is often. the friends went around here and there was the pergola. and the grapes grow up here. everything was green so. that's where we planted the potatoes and tomatoes over there

because they used to call themselves the mother nation? the mother nation, right.e wasn't a concept of being jamaican? it was a concept of being british? right, it was british. i didn't realise that. it was a concept. we weren't a nation. our mother country was england. i find it odd that, back then, britain was seen as the mother country, given the part it played in the transatlantic slave trade. my uncle is taking me to see my great—great—grandmother helen's grave. she was a child in slavery. do you remember her? if i remember her? yeah. yeah, man. what was she like? she went through slavery, you know. yeah, i know. so she couldn't read or write. oh, wow. none of that. so this is queen anne? and helen mcinnis. that's a reallyjamaican name! slavery was abolished in 1838. but then it was still carried on. it was still carrying on. i feel proud that she made it through. of course. but i feel, like, upset as well that she had to go through that. well, yes. yeah. you might be upset, but it was a thing. yeah. and it was a thing worldwide. it almost want to know her, i

his mother became in joan's absence their mother and grandmother.eved in joan's innocence, visited her sometimes, and talked to her on the phone. they were not speaking to their sister. and major david shannon, his remains will spend eternity here just down the road from home in the old military graveyard under the black prairie sod and the wind. >>> i'm craig melvin. >> and i'm natalie morales. >> and this is "dateline." >>> i fell to the floor. i just remember, like, she's dead, she's dead! and i was so confused. i was like, what's going on? what happened? >> a small texas town, two super close friends, and a summer night in the park. >> they have this lookout, and you could see the harbor bridge lit up. it's really pretty when the ar

lay out what kind of mother said. the boy recounts how i saw beat his mother and how he dreams of taking revenge isis tomorrow the lost souls of mosul was filmed before and after iraqi forces recaptured the city and it's a rare insight into the psychological damage done to young people by the conflict including the children of eisel fighters many of whom now live in camps like this one i cherish the love for. the only genius will see its. moment to their means they want to be marked here it's open so you know that if you support one year after you it's a condition in his life you just knew by your lonesome and war and return yes i will can you grow up you know the way documentaries like these are a tough watch but there's clearly an audience for them they don't offer a simple answers rather they raise questions about how societies can overcome years of unimaginable violence sick of the surest of sure to be in a facility really understand what war is it's people dying it's children dying and this really makes you refle

one who is like mother like daughter the mother is the same character the mother when he had just a small stick breaking she is very a lot she's already facing that area that. that is what who is who. is. so and i think she will attack. three rhinos cross our path the driver's getting a little nervous. which is just. the safest move when you see a rhino is to freeze that it understands you don't represent a threat. but when it's due and. we can continue. about ninety rangers work here and you jeanette is in charge she has been running the rhino fund since two thousand and eight and has brought a lot of new staff on board. the number of animals in the sanctuary has almost doubled under her direction while the situation on the run is a unique guy if for a long time there was a short period maybe men nine hundred seventeen nine hundred eighty three rhinos who are pretty secure and in that poaching spot the problem is it doesn't just spike in one country it's parks all over poachers haven't killed any animals in the sanctuary the rhino fund has been breeding them have eighteen years now the f

when she was twenty my mother started her own family. together with my father ryan hold a german from her neighborhood the soviets called it west berlin. thought it was a good war and you don't need a billion neighbors. like us did. i just. had. this ladies from germany she used to live here she'd lodge take some pictures to remember this place of course come in even if you don't want. to. leave the onus on home. ok i'll just look around this well. this is really your mother bird really did not know what your son would say look for her little difficult little son a little difficult the sooner you start to things just to let him sleep to sleep with. her you know. how they are given that. it. was fun and this was just the entrance that got the school on its soil there was this little fence and different varieties of grapes grew that. the folks at the open air for say that. the fans went round here and there was the pergola. and the grapes grow up here. everything was green. because that's where we planted the potatoes and tomatoes over the

man are all the mother. a cook but there's really no idea that monica's foot are let out only to the end always out of the others in the center and. i don't know honey because i'm out of the kitty and i am not like other than the homeowner any of them in the day. i was not only good for the animal that the mother then the lot i would get into the night. long cox's bizarre little survived numerous waves of my and my immigrants but this time their fields were all occupied by row hinge attendants looking the most of them on the moon was a month i wasn't. there do the plotting it will begin with the elop will dissolve the thing done that the cowboys had to do is that the that has had the ad when i had to take them for the rest whatever they just. put it in the. it's going to grandmamma the body going to like estonia down the invalid i'll do that oh and then i have that about them the whole thing is are there what about the numbers of those one of the books i don't know that. we don't know most of all the locals

. >> a mother vanished. >> i cried myself to sleep. it was awful realizing that your worst nightmare had come true. >> a family anguished. >> she's gone. do you have any idea how hard that was? >> now, the questions begin in a southern gothic mystery. >> the case was puzzling. we didn't really know what had happened. >> who would ever imagine you have a mother in your family. >> soon, there would be secrets. >> we were dealing with a person that was leading a double life. >> and one of them would prove deadly. >> and whoever said i know that you did this. >> it hurts too much for me to say it out loud. secrets in a small town. >>> hello and welcome to dateline. it's a case that centers on a mother that had gone missing and the small town secret that led to a very big surprise. >> suppose for a minute you're sitting in your car. you pointed southwest down highway 69 and kept a sharp eye out after half an hour or so. one stop light, one street, one general store. it's a sad truth as the sheriff says, even here, everybody used to know eve

this is my mother when others have already concluded. carlson went on to celebrate his first successes in paris which made his mother proud as a competition in one nine hundred fifty three a cocktail dress by essent on one third place a coach designed to first place created by karl lagerfeld who was just twenty. he and east are not all became good friends and competitors. he was wonderful wonderful he more untold seventy eight or so. after that he would just talk about the past and truth and all that but you know when fashion here. is. not a failed career began to take off even back then he had a way with words and he became increasingly french. after a lot more than one hundred sixty seven he became a devoted of what was called total look a style that united the clothing and the accessories. he spent his evenings in signage amount of play in cafes record shops and bookstores that was also when he began collecting books himself today his collection encompasses about three hundred thousand volumes. he was friends with millennia detach not

own culture but i mean that the interesting thing here is that all the mothers at mit. elucidating who are all the mothers and then shortly do it for free so i wonder maybe it's time for the police for this what the government or at least you should do how do. these mothers give them jobs because many of them are unemployment and why should they you know work for three around the country to help the police with the police cannot do so i think that's also our. you know alexander the questions you're asking i think are what's represented in this tweet from vanessa who has praise for both you and bottom a she says bottom a stark and alexandra's both are groundbreaking and i think it is very telling sweden's power balance and media environment that it took two women with immigrant backgrounds to highlight the vital aspect of the issue but she also has a question that i'm going to direct to you rashid but as ask them terms of questions i'm interested to hear the panelists suggestions for solutions we can't depend on volunteers to solve these pressing issues what are some of

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mother's it is now. well. here's i was like. this and it's over three hundred and friend of them cousin or the one of the chick is a minister in the earth to. put in front of me because of a one hundred other e. collision one hundred. meters or did i go to the girls who did that. you know. the commands are ok. not really. you know. long comically. for you this is a myth if you. up was. never used to look at us but on this one where they had it it is a good city for a mile or so but it's. there for i was there for the model more just the same as cable is on each one. so this will get us if we get a scientist for him is a feat they only see a diva could it be that it's a man yes. noisy story you get it but i think it means most commercially flexi arming us would be that. i. was. wrong and i was you know obviously precisely i understand you like you like to do things like that but something like i'm on the scene you just go on the cement you're not exactly the same me as the colonus who's keen to get into model was a curl little un

>> guest: i am a mother. i am a student and now i am running -- [inaudible] with my partner for north korea was actually at the state of the union that i am trained to rescue my fellow trapped in china like myself was. we get information inside north korea that they are slaves. it is a paradise. i do know that. north korea -- [inaudible] [inaudible] the north korean people have to be in the movement. we cannot force that. we can only empower the movement. >> host: you go to columbia university. what are you studying? [inaudible] >> host: you said your mother as well? >> guest: i have a five -month-old. [inaudible] when people ask me [inaudible] now it's clear because you might get bombed by then someday. before that, why if we can care about animal rights. [inaudible] that we cannot kill another human being. just been sold for $100 at this point. it is like having too much. we can say that we are different. i think what it means to be a human being is a constant question i'm asking myself. i think the men sea

some are much better mothers than others and the good supportive mothers are the ones whose offspring do well for males get higher in the male hierarchy the females are better mothers so that the thing that for me exciting about that is the reason i've done what i've done i had a supportive mother. the most interesting things that you discovered the greatest disappointment well of the greatest similarities for as i've said it may non-verbal communication but in addition they actually have a kind of primitive war and they are territorial and the males patrol the boundaries of the territory and if they spy an individual from a neighboring community they will follow give chase keep very quiet for maybe over an hour looking. looking for individuals and then they will kill them they will actually kill them so you know they have war on the one hand but also altruism and love and compassion so in both these ways the aggressive and the loving so close to us and when you first meet some of these discoveries you came under quite a lot of criticism for the implications that it made about done ch

blond beehive on her mother, but her mother's name lost now.he goes by the nickname bobbie, and in the early years she was always, always there. her father on the other hand was absent mostly, long stretches away punctuated by glorious reunions. when she'd be bundle up like a china doll and bustled off to the harbor where the navy ships come in. >> we'd go see him because he was coming in from the navy. so it was an exciting moment, and she would get us all dressed up, and it was the anticipation of going to the shipyard and having a lot of attention, i think, as a child. >> the memories of how she survived it all, all the trouble -- >> holding my mom's hand. having fun with my mom. being in the moment of joy. i don't have bad memories. >> oh, yes, those. the bad memories. like the day everything good went away. it was 1973. though she and her happy little childhood bubble have no idea what year it was. she knows she was not yet 5, it was not yet autumn, that someone came to the door with a plan. >> i remember a woman coming over and knocking o

my grand mother live add cross the street. the baby sister behind my grand mother. my mother lived here. my next to older sister lived in the back. this family was here. and mama needed a cup of sugar. i walked down because i can't get to this door. i need flowers, quick. go there and go back to him. this was a beautiful, wonderful, wonderful community. we have had everything there was. there was family, church. church schools. people begin to get better jobs and showed them that it could be better in the future. for the next generation. >> it's a 150 year old african american community established by freed slaves. the white settlers there, one name was thomas rigmain freed their slaves. about that time, also, the government started the homestead act. which would give citizens 160 acres and a mule. about about you approved the land 3, 4 years it became yours. and the community was grown perfect there. >> the word is another meaning for a pig or hog. and when people irs came here, there is a lot of wild hogs or pigs. and call it shop country. and others fan getting m

how much did her beautiful mother now? it will take her decades to ask. the face of the young tv star who seems the embodiment of innocence and joy. she writes about depression, uncontrollable rage, binge eating and the cure for the little nun who put on extra pounds. someone gave you pills? >> yeah. >> they gave me, you know, these big green bombers. >> dexadrine. >> dexadrine, hot damn summer in the city. boy oh, boy. this is fun. cotton mouth and you're high as a kite and just -- >> she says she managed to stop the bills after just a few months, but the flying nun had also made her a joke in the serious acting community she worshipped. she's asked to go to the golden globes, but they make her fly in, and by the way, it's a homemade dress. >> my mom made the dress like the night before. i was wearing a pink culotte outfit and my hair was in ringlets. i mean, what on earth was i thinking? not much clearly. flying across the coconut grove and look down at everyone i wanted to know and be, and i had to fly into the arms of john wayne. >> john wayne. >> as

>> i e-mail with my mother regularly, but my mother refuses to see me unless i'll see my father. so i haven't seen her for quite some time. >> host: now, your mother has e-mail so you are connected. she is connected to the outside world. >> guest: we got the internet when i was a teenager so they have internet. >> host: what was the biggest surprise but formal education at 17? the things that you just didn't quite get. i never had friends who went to public school, never went to their house, they never went to mine. social aspect, was a weird kid. didn't know how to talk to people. didn't know how to interact with people. think the academic sign was equally dawning. had never heart of the holocaust before. raise its me hand in class and asked what it was the world is a very different place when you know but the holocaust and you don't and there was a period of -- the fact of learning about something horrific, very difficult, and then there is that fact of coming to terms with the depth of your own ignorance and realizing something like that can happen and it's possible you won't

and these are the people they're preparing to confront the such as a mother it's about a dozen women many of them past retirement age and their supporters. on i'm told soon as in the first row the saturday mothers have been meeting since nine hundred ninety five for the vigils and the lady with the dog green had scoffers join most of them she's no longer afraid of the police she says. gentians attention this protest is not legal police disperse the police has now blocked every street in the area around until sun and the others are forced to stop the protest quickly and this time the women and their supporters couldn't even get close to the location right behind me where they usually hold this city policemen many of them heavily armed blocked all the passages authorities probably wanted to avoid images like last week when the group was about to stage their seven hundred demonstration police forcibly dispersed the crowd several people were injured dozens detained. after her short sit in i meet one until soon again she wants to tell me her story and the story of the saturday mother for

the stories we don't often hear told by the people who live mothers of rincon this is europe. and instantly shifting unicycle they receive in change in america tweet the listening post takes and questions the wilds of the devil will be in the details the kind that cannot be conveyed in two hundred eighty characters or fewer exposing how the press operates in their language as their culture and their context and why certain stories take precedence while others are ignored we can have a better understanding of how news is created for going to have a better understanding of what is the listening post on al-jazeera. this is al jazeera and live from studio fourteen here at al-jazeera headquarters in doha i'm from al santa maria welcome to the new script three leaders planning the future of one stricken country the president salva raw turkey and russia arguably the biggest players in syria's war mess and it's a three way push for power and influence but also an attempt to stop another humanitarian crisis in the region. in the grid more talks on war this time but the attempts to brin

you know the mothers are the backbone of the community and so the best story never gets you also the story of the a strong civil society and drink if you have a lot of n.g.o.s that are engaged in social issue social issues. so there's a lot of story there a lot of football clubs in. there a lot of poetry club general could be there are a lot of extra activities that or that are arranged by the community it so and it's not backed by the government or funded by authorities. or getting economic resources from somewhere else is a vibrant community there is much lobbying kicking so in seeing that clipper community online had thoughts this is andy who writes on twitter i love that they're doing something instead of waiting for the government but should they be this is brought up in the street from ben as ever he who says at one point in the film one of the super moms tells us about a joke she makes with the police that she does their job for them is this really a joke how severely has swedish authority authorities failed young people of color in sweden foster i'll give that to you it was p

. >> told her mother everything. when the college student vanished, nancy thought she was at a sleepover. that wasn't the only thing she was hiding. it would take years for detectivings to uncover the truth buried in a pile of lies, but could they find lynn si. >> i don't suppose you've heard from lynsie? >> nothing. >> reporter: does this man act guilty? does he know more than he's saying? >> i mean, i didn't know anything was going on. all right? i just was, "where's lynsie?" okay? >> reporter: what about this man? can you believe the story he's telling? >> i was supposed to pick her up twice, and she was so out of character. she didn't show up on either day. >> reporter: the evidence whisperer wasn't at either of those interviews, but watching them helped him solve the mystery of what happened to a vivacious young woman and bring answers to the mother who loved her. >> i was always proud of her. she was a real fighter. >> reporter: lynsie ekelund arrived on july 22nd, 1980. the youngest of three. maybe that fighti

my mother was american. my father was peruvian and every time i went back to peru after at that, it was, you're not really peruvian. you're an american. you're not one of us anymore. >> yeah. >> do you have this experience? >> i grew up with that. i grew up with a sense of shame both ways. shame that i was chinese and in a school that was primarily white. and then shame when i went to, among family friends who were chinese in restaurant or any other situation around chinese people, that i couldn't speak chinese. i knew nothing about china. i had trepidations about writing "the joy luck club." people would say you know nothing? you got it all wrong. even my mother said when we first went to china, this is how naive i was, they said, when we go, what if i think i'm one of them and they won't let me come back? they said, they look at you, the way you talk, the way you walk, they know you don't belong. later she claimed, a lot of people claimed i was really so chinese. my chinese did improve because i have half-

a santa rosa police officer, who met the wab by's mother on the streets. >> when she started telling me her story, i knew her children from a foster care camp that i had volunteered at with my wife. >> ashley met the same woman and both encouraged her to get prenatal care and to get off heroin. and they thought that was about all they could do until last valentine's day. they got a call from connie social services. >> they said well she's had a baby and like oh, that's wonderful, you know. she's asking if you will take the baby and if she can be placed in your home. >> whiten then went to the birth mother. >> she said to jesse, i know you and you're firm, but you're fair. she had this beautiful idea of what her daughter's life would be. >> she said she wanted her daughter to have sisters and a stable place to grow. >> she felt like couldn't give her that life and knew that i had daughters. so when i asked her short-term or long-term, she said, no, i want her to be yours. >> the officer's family adopted harlow and they have kept in touch with the birth mother, who is still fighting to

my mother had a breakdown, and that was the cycle. we would go somewhere, stay for a certain amount of months, a year, period of time, and she would inevitably have a breakdown. we always came back to san francisco which i guess came me some sense of continuity and that was what kept me sort of stable. my mother hated to fly, so she would always make us take ships places, so on this particular occasion when i was, i think, 12, we were on this ship getting ready to go through the panama canal, and she had a breakdown on the ship. so she was put in the brig, and i was left to wander the ship until we got to fluorfluora few days later, where we had a distant -- florida a few days later, where we had a distant cousin who came and got us. i think i always knew i was a writer on some level, but i kind of stopped when i became a cop. i used to write short stories, and i thought someday i'm going to write a book about all these ad ventures that my mother took me on. when i became a cop, i found i turned off parts of my brain. i found i had to

your mother is dying and alice is dying too. the mother had come to take care of alice.shewas only 49 years old and she got typhoid fever . goes back home immediately, his brother meet him at the door and says the curse on this house. he goes inside, his mother is dying. shedies at 3:00 a.m. . 12 hours later, alice died in childbirth. they said he walked around in a dazed, stunned state. he previously had gotten a ranch that he might go now and then and he went for two years and became essentially a cowboy. he said as long as he could ride his horse 15 hours a day, physical activity prevented over thought i was finally able to sleep at night. later he said this was the best educational asset he could've possibly developed because he developed this love of the land. that was permanently associated with his name for conservation measures. >> the daughter who was born named alice. why would he not really mention her name ever. why did he ignore her? he had his sister raising her. >> and get a very cavalier attitude toward death. once alice died, he couldn't bear to say the