mom and the things you feel bad that the ideals, i had a c-section, i didn't breast-feed perfectly, mrah, blah, blah. and the social media, it's horrible. and she has the standards and i know she cares, she wants to do a good job and nesting all this. i'm hoping that maybe reading a book like this makes you think about it from different angles will relieve her, although probably inevitably everybody has to go through that, i'm going to be the best, good, and then i failed. and a human thing. maybe it will give her a little-- >> yeah, i really did want to right the book for that purpose so people would feel freed from these unrealistic standards, and feel free to create their own maternal values according to themselves. and not somebody else's, you know, idea of perfect. so that was my goal in the book, so-- >> hi. so i think you mentioned this a little bit when were you talking about ballerina farm in the beginning, but does the book explore roles of religion particularly like the mormon church, the utah mom being perfect, blond, like millions of kids, like and they're all like doing gr