nancy bohl: there's depression. it's not always diagnosed depression, but it's just a really low-level feeling of sadness, and it can be diagnosed depression but very low affect, the person doesn't have a lot of high energy. i remember when i really noticed that i was depressed was that i'd wake up in the morning and i'd just pull the sheets over my head. i didn't want to go out. i didn't want to get cleaned up, dressed up, talk to anybody, listen to anybody, be confronted by anything. so that's when i really knew something was wrong, because normally i just, you know, bounce out. and then there's guilt and bargaining. you know, bargaining that you won't do what you've done before that you think might've not been the right thing to do. you know, you try to bargain a lot of that spiritually. the final stage, acceptance, means moving ahead with life. nancy bohl: acceptance happens at different stages and different times for people. because we are resilient, most people will move into acceptance, and they waver a littl