the kind of rugged masculinity that boys and men are often expected to aspire to but in the age of neetu the notion of toxic masculinity challenges pervasive behaviors like power posturing bullying and sexual harassment british writer j.j. bola says masculinity can be a many faceted experience is book mask off is just out in germany and it calls to redefine masculinity for everyone's benefit you're. in a man's world you don't show weakness. you have to stretch your stuff and show who's boss. there's no time for feelings or doubt. british writer and poet j.j. says enough is enough time to drop the mask of masculinity. what really frustrates me about the mosque that. so many of us continue to wear the small but deep down we realize that it doesn't really benefit it's not helpful to us and the older you get the more that you realize that it's not necessarily true so we're often told you know. be strong be story you know. not emotional. j.j. grew up in a block of flats in the london district of camden. his parents fled what is now the democratic republic of congo when he was 7. wonderful rea