actually, he's off trekking in nepal right now, which i'm very happy about. he has a job, he's taking a break and going from monestary to monestary. i probably shouldn't say all that. but i just thought i'd tell you. he just had a boxing match as part of his whole lifestyle. and he won. i took photographs. so it was good. anyway, he's great. he lives out in l.a. in the quiet after that storm, i reeled that i'd been taking care of so many other people that, like many wives and mothers and women in particular do, that i had neglected my own needs, and i was really stretched thin. in the days that followed, a bunch of my friends talked to me and al talked to me and said what's going on here? so i went and got help. i understood i needed it. i remembered my mother. i also have a degree in psychology, but god forbid i would apply that to myself. so looking back, i realized that my family history, my educational background, did make me feel secure enough to embrace the treatment that i needed, and that i was so fortunate to be able to get with love and support. we