they were because of nfp. the first thing i saw during the abstinence periods, we had to do something else. we didn't have to be physical to show our love. we were creative so we were doing other things. that gave us a lot of space to talk which is very important in marriages. communication, talk. i think it was not like that when we were dating. once we got married because we have this abstinence period, we wanted to be romantic but we couldn't. so we talked a lot. it gave me an opportunity to get to know her better. >> that is very significant. the woman wants conversation. >> then the second thing i started to notice, it was important for me, i started to have more self control. self control around my sexuality and my thoughts. that was something i thought i was like that and it was okay for me to think about sex. but then because of nfp, i started canceling those thoughts. in the beginning because it didn't make sense that we are in abstinence period. but then it was like i wouldn't want my wife to know i